Dealing with impending adulthood

As a 20-year-old college sophomore (I don’t use nouns because, like Britney Spears in the movie Crossroads, I am not a girl, not yet a woman) I’ve had a year to get accustomed to situations that come with being an adult. Without parental help. Through the last year, I’ve realized something grievously important: How does it make sense to let young people between the ages of 18 and 22 make life changing decisions about their future careers when they haven’t even lived a quarter of a century?

When I realized this problem, I also realized that I was the only one capable of letting society know that it could shove all of its expectations of getting a job by the time I’m 22 out the window. While I do hope to be offered a job by the time I graduate from my four year institution, I also don’t want to feel pressured into entering the workforce solely because it is something that is expected of me. I want to experience life first. Isn’t that what LIFE is about? LIVING?

I’ve had moments where I feel unhappy just thinking about how my time as a carefree student is ending. Does entering the world of adults mean I can’t plan to visit places like New Orleans with my friends? Does it mean I can’t wait impatiently for Bonnaroo or Coachella anymore? I still have dreams I want to accomplish. I don’t want to slowly leave them behind just because a 9 to 5 job is demanding my full attention?

The real problem about adulthood is that people eventually settle. Which is incredibly frustrating when you think about how your approaching that moment in your life where all you are worried about is a paycheck you can survive on. #thestruggleisreal

While it doesn’t make sense to ask someone in their early 20s what they want to do for the rest of their lives (because they haven’t lived life to the fullest yet), it’s great to be in our 20s because these are the only years were we can be completely self-centered.

Think about it. Once we get married and have kids, we can’t necessarily decide to pack up and take a road trip with friends. We have to see if we have money, time in our schedules, call a babysitter, see if it’s cool with the hubby, etc, etc. It’s almost impossible to have some down time for ourselves, period. So, be completely selfish while you can. Do whatever you want. Live life how you’ve always dreamed your 20s would be. Don’t settle until the majority of your dreams and goals have been accomplished, because once you stop and settle down, you’ll have less opportunity to see those dreams through.


15 things to do when you’re feeling down

It’s normal to have an off day and be miserable. We’re humans, we carry a shit-load of baggage and life just keeps throwing us more as we get older. It’s a normal part of life, but what isn’t normal is not stopping for one minute of the day and acknowledging what is bothering us. The first step to resolving a problem is to realize we have one. Once we’ve done that, we can move on with our lives and be happier.

Here are a few things to do when you’re feeling down.

1. Dress up — begin a new day feeling like a million bucks.

2. Smile throughout the day (even if it’s to yourself).

3. Treat yourself to something nice. This can be anything. Have you been eyeing that Victoria Secret swim suit for a month now? Buy it, your treat. Have you been especially good on following that diet? Then pay a trip to Starbucks and order the sweetest drink there, or pay a visit to Cinnabon! Today is your day.

4. Take the day off in small ways. The majority of people have 9 to 5 jobs, and taking a day off can be hard, especially when finding jobs is hard enough without having to worry about keeping one. So, take the day off in a small way. What about your day is repetitive? Can you change something? Try to avoid eating at the same place you go to eat during your break and try something new.

5. Make time for friends/girls day

6. Try to get to the root of the problem. What’s bothering you? Is there a solution? Face it head on and nip that problem in the bud!

7. Surround yourself with good energy. If you’re feeling depressed or sad and it has something to do with the people that you surround yourself with, then that is considered bad energy. If you can’t completely get rid of the negative people in your life, then spend at least ONE day without them. Try it out, see how it goes and then see how you end up feeling. Better? Then you found the problem.

8. Do something you love to do. Do you love playing the guitar? do you love shopping? Haven’t spent any time working on your writing or photography? Spend a little time doing something you love.

9. Take a nap! Sometimes, we’re just exhausted. We work and work and work and never stop. We’re a society that doesn’t realize that people need to take it slow every once in a while. As a college student, I cannot tell you how many people in school make time to take naps in-between classes. They actually make a time for it on their mobile calendars. So make time. Not only will your body thank you for it, but you’ll be wishing you’d started long before you read this blog.

10. Exercise! Personally, I hate exercising. I don’t what it is, but I hate getting up and getting active. It’s not the sweat, it’s the effort. Now, I’m a very ambitious person, and I’ll do anything to be successful in life, etc. Working out is different. However, when I DO become active, I find myself feeling better, more alive, and I end up enjoying the day ahead of me. If you hate to exercise, try something that beginners can easily take up like Yoga or Aerobics. You don’t need to run 5 miles on the treadmill, but you do need to do something that will make your body happy. Happy body = happy life.

11. Music! From the moment you get up to the moment you go to sleep, incorporate the favorite playlist you have saved on Spotify for today. If you’re lacking in favorite playlists, then I recommend “Mood Booster” on Spotify.

12. Think positive. If you tell yourself that today is going to be a good day, then it will be. Granted, we can’t control everything, but we can control our outlook on life and what our day will bring.

13. Cry. This one is for both men and women. Sometimes, when you’re very stressed and it’s causing you to feel overwhelmed, it’s good to cry the emotion out. Just think, you’ll feel loads better afterward.

14. Netflix. If you’re the kind of person who prefers to have quiet nights in and have time to just relax at home, then sit yourself on the couch or in bed with a warm blanket and watch something on Netflix. Word on the street is House of Cards is really popular right now.

15. Night on the town. If you’re the kind of person that loves going out and meeting new people, then perhaps this one is for you. Get dressed, put on that sexy dress, call your girls and have some fun!

I have no idea what to write about…

And the worst part is that I think writing in a blog is kind of…cliche, for my generation at least. It seems everyone has a blog or wants to write a blog these days, and while it is something that has interested me, it’s always seemed like a lot of work. I can’t even write in my own journal, for pete’s sake! How am I supposed to manage and keep up with a blog? But, I guess it helps if no one’s reading it and there are no commitments like posting once every week, although that is something that I hope I can at least do.

So, topic of conversation today is roommates and why you can and can’t live with them.

Recently, I’ve been experiencing a change of heart when it comes to my roommates. This past year has been a year of drastic change and growth, something that I’ve had to get used to, and I’ve realized that while living with roommates can be good in terms of having company, it can also affect personal space on a more emotional level. Why emotional? Because everyone needs room, once in a while, to breathe. To just be. To think clearly without the clutter that constant company brings. I’ve never lived by myself, but it is something that I am constantly dreaming about, something I can’t wait to experience. I’ve heard so much about how people learn more about themselves when they live alone. Plus, there’s the perk of decorating your apartment exactly the way you want it without taking into consideration anyone else’s input. hehe.

The truth is, I’ve experienced many things this past year that have hastened my ascent into adulthood. I feel older than I did a year ago, and I’m struggling to get along with people that are not yet as mature as I am. Not to say that they are immature. They are still only 19 and 20 and as mature as you can be at that age. I just feel like I’m 25-years-old. I’ve lost what little interest I ever had in partying and drinking, I can’t help but steer clear of those two combinations.